in pursuit of love

by i didnt know British men are dogs too
(Dubai)

I met a dignified British national at a popular multi racial dating site. His name is Scott P FarXXX of Farell Longbridge with offices at Menara Keck Seng building in Jalan Bukit Bintang. He has an impressive resume on linkedin. We communicated back and forth for more than two months. We exchanged photos too.

Then he invited me to join him on a golfing trip to phuket. "I will pay for your ticket and you wont need any money, just your smile" he said.

Unfortunately i was unable to make it because of a visa glitch. So we agreed i travel to Malaysia where he lives. Again he promised to pay for my ticket and living expenses. I foolishly agreed, bought a ticket, took vacation days from work.

When i arrived in Malaysia, he didn't show up at the airport as he had promised claiming he had car trouble, that was the first red flag.

He sent me a text to meet him at a hotel in the city. We met at the Westin. His weird body language was the second red flag. Then he went on a nervous drinking spree and I knew all was not well.

Then he paid for a room at the very hotel, then followed the rough sex. And then the very next day he sent me a text informing me that he had a girlfriend and wanted nothing to do with me.

Then he told me to go to Chankat Bukit Pintang and find myself a cheap hotel room, and that he will give me RM1000 to cover for my stay.

He gave me the money two days later because i insisted. The deceit was too much to bear and I spent the rest of my vacation in depression. Upon my return to Dubai, i actually fell ill, that was a long way to go for a heartbreak.

I'm a dignified African woman with a decent job and a decent lifestyle. Why would i get on a plane to go to Malaysia if i knew he had a girlfriend? What sort of a person makes a fellow human being fly across the world for humiliation? Why would he carry on sending me texts for two months all for this? We are both mature adults. Why wouldn't he just treat me with the decency and respect I deserve? For a man with such high credentials, I wonder what happened to him that made him such a horrible being?

It's not enough to wear a decent suit and tag yourself with a fancy title, own it.

He cunningly refused to take responsibility for luring me there. A gesture that lacks in moral standing, responsibility and integrity.